Rape- It's not about sex.
To me personally; Rape is secondary to murder. I can say that, because I myself was a victim of numerous rapes. So I know exactly how it feels.
Both your mind and your soul are murdered. I would of rather have been physically beaten, than have had those men use their penises as internal weapons.
Because those weapons cause the most devastation as they penetrated and violated my very personal and private parts. Those parts of my body, meant for love, intimacy and the place where my children would grow and be born. And those rapists knew that they would contaminate my mind for the remainder of my life. Their evil polluted my psyche. Because those most abhorrent and traumatic of assaults could never be erased. That is the rapists power, their enjoyment and their pleasure. Rapists don't rape in order to satisfy their libido. They rape in order to gain control, power and deriving pleasure and satisfaction by debasing, degrading, humiliating and hurting the victim.
Rape is something that you never recover from psychologically. Not just the rape itself, but the repercussions, such as secondary victimisation.
You cannot talk openly about it ( or indeed report it) easily, as you can about other crimes against a person. Unlike being mugged or physically assaulted, where the person affected will gain sympathy. You are stigmatised, condemned, isolated, abandoned. You are 'damaged goods' You are 'soiled'.
And the shame of it - is all over you~ and deep inside you. Forever.
There are many reasons as to why men rape.
One being Anger rape when the male possesses an extreme hatred towards women and the aim is purely to humiliate, debase and hurt the victim.
Another, is power rape where the male compensates feelings of inadequacy. Raping victims feeds their issues of mastery, control, strength, authority and capability; to assert their competency and validate their masculinity. The power rapist fantasises about sexual conquests and believes that the victim initially resists them, and once they overpower their victim 'she will eventually enjoy it'. Or as in the case of pimps and traffickers, using rape to gain power and control over their commodity.
There is sadistic rape in which there is such a sexual transformation of anger and power that the aggression itself is eroticised. The excitement is achieved by inflicting pain and maltreatment upon his victim. He finds immense gratification in the victims torment, anguish, distress, helplessness and suffering, exacerbated by pornographic rape; in where the female secretly desires to be raped.
This leads me to the relationship between the sex industry and rape. The acceptance, normalcy and accessibility of the sex industry, reinforces the fantasy which increases sexual violence against women (and also men and children) Who are perceived as mere sexual objects, that can be used and abused by males. Pornography is so dangerous because it eroticises the domination, humiliation and coercion of females. Studies have shown the link between sexual offenders and pornography that positively correlates to sexual assault by endorsing such fantasises. Some offenders believed and insisted that their victims not only enjoyed being raped but also enjoyed the violence. Therefore pornography leads to a higher acceptance of rape, violence and other myths against women and general sexual callousness; this also applies to child molesters and child pornography.
If you can objectify a woman, then it is easier to rape a woman.
There are heterosexual men in prison who rape other heterosexual men for those very reasons. They know that raping another human being is ultimate power and degradation. Violating a persons most intimate parts has a profound and everlasting psychological impact, far transcending that of physical abuse.
Male prisoner rapes lower ranking inmate- Face to face
There is also War rape Of both males and females; frequently used as a means of psychological warfare in order to humiliate the enemy and to destroy the social fabric of society.
Exploitation rape - The prime example of exploitation is the trafficking of girls and women and forcing them into pornography and prostitution for monetary gain. This is a global crime that affects thousands of (mainly females) each year. It is so lucrative that it has already surpassed drug trafficking.
There are other similar crimes that are usually under the radar. Where sexual assaults/rapes are committed on incapacitated victims, who are debilitated by medicinal drugs and are completely oblivious to the sexual crime. This exploitation is usually carried out in order to video the crime and sell the film to pornography sites. This often occurs by intimate partners, but also by perpetrators looking to make large profits.
Man drugs and rapes 100 women and sells films to pornography sites for $100,000
I am going to extend the reasons of rape; to that of Entertainment rape.
Since the mobile phone explosion, there is now the capacity to photograph, film and text sexual crimes all over the internet.
Females are viewed as sexual objects that can be abused, humiliated, degraded, mocked and used to amuse others as mere entertainment.
Child on child rape- It's not just adults that sexually assault and rape, unfortunately so do children. And although many cases are related to children being abused themselves and projecting that abuse onto their peers. I believe that this crime has escalated because of the accessibility to internet pornography, especially the child rape gangs. These children would of become offenders, but are incited by pornography as adult offenders are.
12 year old boy rapes his 7 year old sister after watching pornography on x.box
Blaming young women
No one deserves to be raped in any capacity ~
Whether they are intoxicated.
Whether under the influence of drugs
Whether they are promiscuous
Whether they wear revealing clothes
Whether they are prostituted
Whether they consented to initial intimacies (such as kissing) And didn't want to go any further
This is victim blaming!
And this victim blaming only applies to young women. Not other rape victims, such as babies, children, older/ elderly women and males of all ages.
If a young woman goes to a party, gets drunk and is raped whilst incapacitated- She is not only blamed for causing her own rape by voluntary drinking too much, but she will be vilified with verbal attacks such as 'Whore' and 'Slut'.
Whereas an elderly woman who goes to a party, gets drunk and is raped whilst incapacitated will not usually be blamed for her own rape by voluntary drinking too much. She will not be vilified. (Unless she wore revealing clothing, then she will be called a 'Dirty old whore') Instead there will be disparagement humour, such as 'She should be so lucky'
Some terms of language commonly used in labelling sexual behaviour.
Males - Casanova - Stud - Ladies man - Player - Romeo - Babe magnet - Sowing his Oats
Females - Whore - Slut - Slag - Hoe - Tart - Tramp - Skank - Village bicycle - Damaged goods
Eve ~ The temptress of men
Something that I have long noticed is that much of the media, judiciaries, police and society only blame women (usually) between the ages of fourteen and twenty five for their own rapes for one or more of the above reasons. I can only speculate that this is a deep rooted belief, myth and identity of young women of reproductive age. Female fertility generally starts at puberty, peaks to mid 20's and then slowly declines. So it must be that fertile women will resort to seeking out, seducing and tempting every male available. And because they are deemed the most attractive and nubile during these ages, they must possess the sinful power of a wanton temptress that weakens and incites males 'who cannot help themselves' to fornicate with her and therefore lose his control and power.
And of course the first sinful temptress was Eve.
'Women are evil, my children: because they have no power or strength to stand up against man, they use wiles and try to ensnare him by their charms; and man, whom woman cannot subdue by strength, she subdues by guile.'
(Testament of Reuben: V, 1-2, 5)
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Lilith, Lamashtu, Lamia and other female demons
BLAME THE RAPISTS FOR RAPE
The long term psychological suffering and trauma of the victim is immeasurable. My feelings are, that the judicial system needs educating. Not only in the understanding of sex offenders and the logistics of rape, but of the severe impact it has on the victims.
There needs to be a universally revised legislation regarding sentencing of sexual offenders.
The leniency and lack of consequences is both a mockery and a diabolical injustice to the victims, whom society fails on many levels; thus further empowering the perpetrators.
Unfortunately, we still reside in a world of sexism, objectification, misogyny, patriarchy, ignorance, apathy and of course - Victim blaming.
And I think that one way to combat this, is to teach children about these contributing factors by external agencies within schools. That would be a crucial start to understand and address these issues.
Both your mind and your soul are murdered. I would of rather have been physically beaten, than have had those men use their penises as internal weapons.
Because those weapons cause the most devastation as they penetrated and violated my very personal and private parts. Those parts of my body, meant for love, intimacy and the place where my children would grow and be born. And those rapists knew that they would contaminate my mind for the remainder of my life. Their evil polluted my psyche. Because those most abhorrent and traumatic of assaults could never be erased. That is the rapists power, their enjoyment and their pleasure. Rapists don't rape in order to satisfy their libido. They rape in order to gain control, power and deriving pleasure and satisfaction by debasing, degrading, humiliating and hurting the victim.
Rape is something that you never recover from psychologically. Not just the rape itself, but the repercussions, such as secondary victimisation.
You cannot talk openly about it ( or indeed report it) easily, as you can about other crimes against a person. Unlike being mugged or physically assaulted, where the person affected will gain sympathy. You are stigmatised, condemned, isolated, abandoned. You are 'damaged goods' You are 'soiled'.
And the shame of it - is all over you~ and deep inside you. Forever.
There are many reasons as to why men rape.
One being Anger rape when the male possesses an extreme hatred towards women and the aim is purely to humiliate, debase and hurt the victim.
Another, is power rape where the male compensates feelings of inadequacy. Raping victims feeds their issues of mastery, control, strength, authority and capability; to assert their competency and validate their masculinity. The power rapist fantasises about sexual conquests and believes that the victim initially resists them, and once they overpower their victim 'she will eventually enjoy it'. Or as in the case of pimps and traffickers, using rape to gain power and control over their commodity.
There is sadistic rape in which there is such a sexual transformation of anger and power that the aggression itself is eroticised. The excitement is achieved by inflicting pain and maltreatment upon his victim. He finds immense gratification in the victims torment, anguish, distress, helplessness and suffering, exacerbated by pornographic rape; in where the female secretly desires to be raped.
This leads me to the relationship between the sex industry and rape. The acceptance, normalcy and accessibility of the sex industry, reinforces the fantasy which increases sexual violence against women (and also men and children) Who are perceived as mere sexual objects, that can be used and abused by males. Pornography is so dangerous because it eroticises the domination, humiliation and coercion of females. Studies have shown the link between sexual offenders and pornography that positively correlates to sexual assault by endorsing such fantasises. Some offenders believed and insisted that their victims not only enjoyed being raped but also enjoyed the violence. Therefore pornography leads to a higher acceptance of rape, violence and other myths against women and general sexual callousness; this also applies to child molesters and child pornography.
If you can objectify a woman, then it is easier to rape a woman.
There are heterosexual men in prison who rape other heterosexual men for those very reasons. They know that raping another human being is ultimate power and degradation. Violating a persons most intimate parts has a profound and everlasting psychological impact, far transcending that of physical abuse.
Male prisoner rapes lower ranking inmate- Face to face
There is also War rape Of both males and females; frequently used as a means of psychological warfare in order to humiliate the enemy and to destroy the social fabric of society.
Exploitation rape - The prime example of exploitation is the trafficking of girls and women and forcing them into pornography and prostitution for monetary gain. This is a global crime that affects thousands of (mainly females) each year. It is so lucrative that it has already surpassed drug trafficking.
There are other similar crimes that are usually under the radar. Where sexual assaults/rapes are committed on incapacitated victims, who are debilitated by medicinal drugs and are completely oblivious to the sexual crime. This exploitation is usually carried out in order to video the crime and sell the film to pornography sites. This often occurs by intimate partners, but also by perpetrators looking to make large profits.
Man drugs and rapes 100 women and sells films to pornography sites for $100,000
I am going to extend the reasons of rape; to that of Entertainment rape.
Since the mobile phone explosion, there is now the capacity to photograph, film and text sexual crimes all over the internet.
Females are viewed as sexual objects that can be abused, humiliated, degraded, mocked and used to amuse others as mere entertainment.
Child on child rape- It's not just adults that sexually assault and rape, unfortunately so do children. And although many cases are related to children being abused themselves and projecting that abuse onto their peers. I believe that this crime has escalated because of the accessibility to internet pornography, especially the child rape gangs. These children would of become offenders, but are incited by pornography as adult offenders are.
12 year old boy rapes his 7 year old sister after watching pornography on x.box
Blaming young women
No one deserves to be raped in any capacity ~
Whether they are intoxicated.
Whether under the influence of drugs
Whether they are promiscuous
Whether they wear revealing clothes
Whether they are prostituted
Whether they consented to initial intimacies (such as kissing) And didn't want to go any further
This is victim blaming!
And this victim blaming only applies to young women. Not other rape victims, such as babies, children, older/ elderly women and males of all ages.
If a young woman goes to a party, gets drunk and is raped whilst incapacitated- She is not only blamed for causing her own rape by voluntary drinking too much, but she will be vilified with verbal attacks such as 'Whore' and 'Slut'.
Whereas an elderly woman who goes to a party, gets drunk and is raped whilst incapacitated will not usually be blamed for her own rape by voluntary drinking too much. She will not be vilified. (Unless she wore revealing clothing, then she will be called a 'Dirty old whore') Instead there will be disparagement humour, such as 'She should be so lucky'
Some terms of language commonly used in labelling sexual behaviour.
Males - Casanova - Stud - Ladies man - Player - Romeo - Babe magnet - Sowing his Oats
Females - Whore - Slut - Slag - Hoe - Tart - Tramp - Skank - Village bicycle - Damaged goods
Eve ~ The temptress of men
Something that I have long noticed is that much of the media, judiciaries, police and society only blame women (usually) between the ages of fourteen and twenty five for their own rapes for one or more of the above reasons. I can only speculate that this is a deep rooted belief, myth and identity of young women of reproductive age. Female fertility generally starts at puberty, peaks to mid 20's and then slowly declines. So it must be that fertile women will resort to seeking out, seducing and tempting every male available. And because they are deemed the most attractive and nubile during these ages, they must possess the sinful power of a wanton temptress that weakens and incites males 'who cannot help themselves' to fornicate with her and therefore lose his control and power.
And of course the first sinful temptress was Eve.
'Women are evil, my children: because they have no power or strength to stand up against man, they use wiles and try to ensnare him by their charms; and man, whom woman cannot subdue by strength, she subdues by guile.'
(Testament of Reuben: V, 1-2, 5)
[link below]]
Lilith, Lamashtu, Lamia and other female demons
BLAME THE RAPISTS FOR RAPE
The long term psychological suffering and trauma of the victim is immeasurable. My feelings are, that the judicial system needs educating. Not only in the understanding of sex offenders and the logistics of rape, but of the severe impact it has on the victims.
There needs to be a universally revised legislation regarding sentencing of sexual offenders.
The leniency and lack of consequences is both a mockery and a diabolical injustice to the victims, whom society fails on many levels; thus further empowering the perpetrators.
Unfortunately, we still reside in a world of sexism, objectification, misogyny, patriarchy, ignorance, apathy and of course - Victim blaming.
And I think that one way to combat this, is to teach children about these contributing factors by external agencies within schools. That would be a crucial start to understand and address these issues.